3 Simple (and difficult) Steps to Prepare for Marriage
- Get Really Healthy
- This isn’t about fitting into a wedding dress or getting beach ready for your honeymoon but really about emotional health. Most marriages struggle out of the gate because of mingling two people with a lot of baggage. Think of yourself hustling through the airport with a ton of baggage as opposed to a light backpack. The light carry on will make the journey so much more enjoyable. Whatever weighs you down individually will now weigh you both down as a couple.
- Write down the non-neogitables
- This might seem a little trite or futile but revisiting these non-negotiables can save you from wasting time, energy and heartbreak on someone that won’t be around for the long haul. It also might not be a bad idea to have a trusted friend talk through these with you, preferably one who has a decent track record on the relationship front. This can also help breakthrough some silly superficial desires that might keep you from finding someone you can connect with on many levels, not just the physical.
- Quit messing around with people you don’t intend to marry
- My dad always gave me very simple advice in dating, “If you don’t plan on marrying her, why are you dating her?” Gotta love some straight forward dad advice. Many times singles date around, not looking for a spouse, but simply to fill short term needs (physical and emotional). Granted, the process of dating can help you learn more about yourself and the spouse that will fit best with you. The sad part is that we waste a lot of time, energy and money on someone we have no intentions of spending the rest of our lives with.